We, all have somebody in our life who have hurt us in some way and we are usually angry with them.
For example myself, during my life, has been faced with some people who have deeply hurt me emotionally and I had decided not to forgive them. Maybe, main reasons for me to keep this anger were:
- They do not deserve my compassion
- They should admit that they did wrong to me
- I need to memorize their behavior for restraining them from repeating
But now I am not thinking so anymore. I have released the need to hold negative thoughts toward whom has hurt me do not help me and do not keep me safe. I have realized there is no one in our life by the chance and no one does something to us by the chance.
When we remember our past lives or we experience higher awareness then we can understand the reasons for ambiguity behind our problems. I think there is an acceptable reason for any problem in our life. We just need to believe "we were born to be perfect".
We need to believe everyone has a gift for us but their gifts are different. Love, teach or even punishment.
For example if you have a controlling mother,
maybe you have to learn to be independent or maybe you have to learn not to be controlling.
It means everyone has his/her point in the same case.
With this theory you will be never disappointed, angry, upset or ... instead of that, you will appreciate the way the others behave you.
You can forgive and send love to those who has wounded you.
As soon as you catch the point, no more problem .
Besides, If you persist in keeping your negative emotion, you are carrying all that violence on your shoulder and this will hurt you.
Some times when we feel physical illness it is often time to realize that there is somebody in our life that we need to forgive. |